Knowing how (and how not to) text is a huge deal when you start dating.
Most of your interaction with girls you meet will be through your phone, so it's essential to know the basics of what to do.
There is however one crucial fact you need to know...
Don't be dependent on things working out for any one girl.
Players aren't needy or obsessive and can easily move onto other girls at anytime. Therefore, the best way to text like a player is to be one, or at least understand why it works and how you can act like one.
When refering to "players," this guide is more referring to guys who are just good with women.
It's less about actual playing them/being deceitful.
Texting like a Player
This is one of those "fake it till you make it" things.
There are no unique or special ways that players text.
Sure, there are wrong ways to text and things you should ideally be doing/saying (we'll get to that in a minute), but it's important not to overthink it.
Before we get into this- I wouldn't recommend being an actual "player."
Should you hook up with a ton of girls? Hell ya. But do so with those that want that.
There are plenty of them if you're capable of looking.
How a player texts
- He doesn't use some grand strategy.
- His emotions don't influence his messages.
- Texts are often lighthearted or fun.
- He doesn't overthink it.
Ultimately, she likes you (the person saying the words on the screen), not the words themselves.
You shouldn't give in to needy or jealous feelings and obsessively text her. Recognize the feelings, but don't act on them. They'll happen less frequently over time.
Your tone should be confident yet chill, flirty, and fun.
Don't try to find a perfect balance between how many times she texted you first vs. how many you did.
Lastly, don't continually stare at the screen thinking up the perfect response to every reply.
If it happens.. recognize it. Send a response. Move on.
Distract yourself if you need to.
A Player Doesn't Act Like Someone Else
The worse thing a guy can do is try to be someone or something he's not.
This will backfire.
Sure, be best version of you- but still be you.
If you try to act differently, it won't work. You'll end up overthinking and analyzing everything she does or say and never really be comfortable around her (especially in person).
Yes, it's cliché to say "be yourself,"- but it's the only way.
If she genuinely likes you- then she likes your personality.
Your personality better comes out when you're comfortable.
You'll become more comfortable with more experience.
Getting to "Player" Status
To truly get to that level of texting (or being) a player, there are two things you need to always work on...
Improve your appearance
Make sure always to look your best (especially if you plan to send a girl pics of yourself)
Buy and wear clothes that fit.
Even something as simple as jeans, a T-shirt, and a nice watch can go a long way.
Get frequent haircuts (keeping the sides short if you're unsure).
Get a tan or even use bronzer if you're very pale.
Hit the gym and lose weight if you need to.
Always look for opportunities to improve.
Increase your experience
Recognize it's a process.
View success as making that cold approach or going on that date.
Everything you need to know will come over time.
Don't obsess or analyze- just focus on getting your feet wet.
Celebrate when you push your comfort zone, regardless of the result.
Being a "player" (or acting like it) ultimately comes from having a ton of success. You can't reach that point without putting yourself out there.
Use dating apps to get this experience. If you're having trouble with it, it's almost always from your pictures. However, let me know in the comments below if you need any help.
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