Before we get into whether it's "creepy" or not...
You should first recognize that cold approach works.
So even if you were to come across to some women as a creep, it could still very well be worth it.
I used to cold approach a lot. I met a great girl who I decided to enter a relationship with.
That was over 10 years ago. We're still together.
Even if some girls thought I was a weirdo, it didn't matter in the end. A girl that could end up loving you is waiting for you to approach her.
Don't be so afraid of the opinions of some who were never interested in the first place...
Cold approaching is creepy if you don't understand the dynamics of it and how it can work.
The hard truth is you have to be someone women want to be approached by. While that's easier said than done, it's not as difficult as most may think.
The "Creepiness" of Cold Approach
Now that we got that out of the way...
Cold approach isn't creepy unless you're impolite, aggressive or dress like a slob. You need to be a guy that women would want to be approached by.
This means you may need to rework your appearance.
You don't have to be the best-looking guy out there, either. You should look welcoming and well put together.
Don't go long without haircuts, buy clothes that actually fit, have good posture, trim your nails, etc.
Furthermore, recognize that there's a time and place it. I suggest avoiding approaching at the gym, transit of closed off spaces, any places not in public, etc.
(The gym can work but it's more for gradually getting to know her.)
Lastly, just keep it all simple and direct.
You don't need swagger or any "smooth moves." Just introduce yourself, chat for a minute, and ask if you can give her your number.
Reading her body language usually tells you right away if you should cut things short.
Why Do People Think Approaching is Creepy?
Cold approach is just a tool.
Whether it's creepy depends on who uses it or how it's used.
Unfortunately, it's propagated commonly by the pickup artist community.
These large groups of guys online come together in forums with the sole intent of learning how to get good with women.
While there's nothing wrong with that, these guys are young and inexperienced, resulting in the blind leading the blind.
Most guys who are good with women don't spend hours online analyzing their interactions with women or write "lay reports" (if they managed to achieve one).
The consequence is droves of guys going out talking to women without the faintest idea of how to have success.
They don't take care of their appearance, talk way too long, say obvious/crummy canned lines, and are unable to read body language.
Don't let the reputation of it put you off.
The Bottom Line
There's no reason why you won't have success with it, assuming you've done what's above.
Avoid the creepy pickup lines: just have a genuine conversation.
That works best whether you're wanting to hook up or find someone to date.
Recognize that you may not always come off the way you want.
However, remember that you did nothing wrong if your approaches are brief and polite. It's very easy to let approach anxiety talk you out it.
You improve with every approach made.
You'll improve over time and eventually be able to tell the likelihood of success before even making the approach.
Here's my last bit of advice: ask yourself if you should be cold approaching.
The best decision may be to just focus on the gym for the next 6-12 months. Make yourself someone women want to be approached by.
Most guys don't take the initiate like that. Building habits like working out is about focusing on the future you. Make him the best version where any girl would be flattere
2 replies to "Is Cold Approaching Creepy? (is it for weirdos or winners)"
It’s funny I find this because I’ve been told by my friends countless times “don’t do that”, “it’s bad” but if I don’t try then who will?
How will I meet anyone?
So somewhat refreshing to find this article, I was going to approach a woman I saw but I let her leave, because I’m with my mother and I think she’s tired of me always cold approaching when I’m around and supposedly “going after all the women like a desperate lost dog” is the words she’s used, which frankly is bullshit.
Anyways thanks for the article lol
Glad you found it helpful. Keep up the approaches man!