So you see someone you think is cute and you want to say hello to them. However, you're too nervous or uncertain of what to say...
How to meet women at the park? Approach them casually and just say "hello," then ask them how their day is going. You can tell by their response if they don't want to be bothered. If receptive, ask open-ended questions about the park or dog (if they have one), and move towards asking for her number.
We'll dive into some examples of what specifically you can say, how exactly to ask for their number, and how to deal with your approach anxiety.
The dynamic of what to do or say can depend on the situation. If they're with their dog, hanging out on a blanket, on their phone, or doing something specific- you can rely on a situational opener.
A situational opener is one where you can use the surroundings or situation they are in as an ice-breaker.
For instance, you could comment on a book they're reading and ask how it is. Or maybe they're bird-watching and you ask what type she sees or hears.
After saying hello and asking them how they are or how their day is going, you'll want to continue the conversation beyond small talk (assuming she seems receptive enough) or just move towards getting her number.
Beyond just starting with small talk or situational openers, you can also just use a regular opener. These openers may seem obvious that they're rehearsed, but they can still be effective (assuming they're simple and not resembling "pick-up lines").
It ideally shouldn't be your first choice, but it's nice to use as a crutch if you're having difficulty.
Regular openers at the park:
How I would approach a girl at the park (non-situational):
Me: Hi. How you doing?
Me: Great day for a walk right? (*this isn't really situational since you can always bring up the weather good or bad)
Her: Ya it is
Me: Hey I'm always looking to meet new people or friends, and want to know if I can give you my number?
After having a simple and short conversation, follow it up with a quick way to give your number or to get theirs. I often find giving them your number easier (in case they're not actually interested), and you could at least add to text you later on.
Check out Best Cold Approach Openers for more opener examples and learning how to close them.
Your approaches in the park should follow the same idea and rules as doing approaches just about anywhere. These are:
Your approach anxiety is likely to be your biggest challenge with making the approach at the park.
It's essential to understand that you must frame success purely by whether or not you make the approach, and not by how it goes. Your goal is to talk to that cute girl. If you did, you've accomplished what you set out to do.
There will be infinite opportunities for other approaches in the future, so getting exposure and gaining experience is what's most valuable.
When you're actually proud and grateful that you took action, you'll have less to fear with future approaches. If approach anxiety is still too high to cause inaction, consider starting the AA Program.
If you're at a dog park, making approaches becomes so much easier.
You have a situational approach available in your arsenal at all times.
If the place is even moderately busy, people have probably already commented on her dog or asked questions about it, so saying hello is completely normal.
It's the one cold approach that isn't unexpected- at least regarding the opener.
Just open by commenting on her dog like everyone else:
She'll probably ask about yours too. Then, continue any small talk and suggest hanging out some time with offering her your number.
Even if you're not at a dog park, bringing your dog to any park (that allows them) is a good conversation starter as well. It's even easier if your dog is small, cute, and likes to go up to people: "My dog seems to like you"
She may even say something to you first.
Approaching women in the park can be a nerve-wracking experience. Still, with the right approach and mindset, it can be both rewarding and enjoyable.
The best part is you don't need to be all that confident and smooth. I was a nervous, anxious wreck on my first approaches, and they were just as successful as my later ones.
The main thing is to actually take action and not talk yourself out of it. Cold approach rejection is normal and expected, and you'll learn to be unfazed by it over time.
If you want to approach beyond just this one scenario in parks, check out my Cold Approach Tips. It breaks down all the places you can approach and how to make it as easy as possible.
Good luck. If you made the approach- let us know how it went in the comments.
In this scenario, the same basic principles still apply. However, approaching one girl but not the other may not be the best idea since you're essentially saying you only find one of them attractive.
I suggest talking to both of them as a group. Asking if they would ever want to hang out, etc. If you get a number, you can suggest you'll bring a friend if they're wanting to meet up some time.
The biggest mistake would be the same typical ones with most approaches. This is using cheesy pick-up lines, getting too close to them, talking too long, or clearly not taking the hint they're interested.
Again, as long as you're genuine, polite, and make your approaches quick- there's nothing to worry about.