"Should I Let My Girlfriend Go to the Club?"
You should let your girlfriend go to the club. She needs to have the autonomy to do what she wants. Controlling her behavior will likely backfire as it shows a lack of trust.
It's super easy to feel anxious about these things.
What matters is to not act on those feelings.
Take a breath, dude.
We'll go over how to deal with these emotions and a better perspective on what to do.
Letting Your Girlfriend Go to the Club
This all boils down to you feeling insecure that she could cheat.
You can't stop thinking about it.
You keep picturing her in the club getting tipsy with other guys going after her.
Those are some seriously brutal emotions.
I've 100% been there. I even told my first girlfriend not to dance on her graduation cruise with other guys.
We broke up the next day.
Making long-term changes is the first and most impactful way to avoid these feelings. It doesn't help you right now, but it's essential to know.
This is about facing the insecurity head-on.
For most men, this is tied to their self-worth.
They're afraid if a relationship ends, they won't be able to find someone else (for a long time).
If my girlfriend and I were to break up today, I know that I have a path forward.
I've kept up my appearance and can rely on experience with dating apps and cold approach to meet someone new.
The breakup would indeed still suck, but it wouldn't be as bad.
Direct those feelings towards the gym whenever they arise. Go do some pushups and sweat out the stress.
But is it even okay to go clubbing in a relationship?
If someone said to me that it's not okay, I wouldn't necessarily disagree with them. While she should be able to go dancing with her friends, she's still choosing an environment that's made for hookups.
But does that justify you not letting her go?
Absolutely not.
First, "letting" is a loaded word. Neither of you needs permission for how you spend your time.
But the fact is that she believes it's okay.
So, telling her "no" would make you seem controlling to her.
You're stuck between a rock and a hard place. This is why you must largely accept the feelings and wait it out.
However, it helps to know this simple fact...
Very few guys give women full freedom and trust to do what they want.
If you can actually be supportive of her going out, you'll stand out from any other guys she's dated before.
This situation could strengthen your relationship instead of causing it to crumble.
But what if she cheats on me?
Let's say someone's girlfriend is willing to cheat if given the opportunity.
What's the better option for a man:
- Focusing on stopping her from cheating.
- Focusing on finding a girl who wouldn't cheat.
There is a weird belief (probably from PUAs) that a woman cheating falls more on the fault of the man doing it.
It doesn't make sense.
"Seducing" isn't some manner of pressing the right buttons on any woman to hook up with them.
If she cheats, it's because that's what she's capable of.
Yes, the music, environment, and alcohol will cause inhibitions to lower.
But going as far as cheating requires the decision and follow-through to do it.
Try to think of this as more of a vetting process than anything else.
What About Going Clubbing with Your Girlfriend?
Should couples go clubbing together?
It doesn't really matter.
The main thing is to first read the room.
If she wants to just spend time with her girlfriends, let her do it.
Otherwise, you'll just act as a wedge. I doubt you really want to get involved with whatever "girl talk" they want to have anyway. Your presence would probably change their whole vibe.
Couples going out to enjoy the nightlife with other friends is super common.
It really depends on your age and what your social group is like. In my early 20s, it was what everyone did every weekend (regardless of relationship status).
Partying While in a Relationship
Clubbing or partying won't ruin any relationship that's worth having.
So in the end, you just need to roll with these uncomfortable, obsessive feelings.
Whether she's going to the club or some random guy talking to her, it's a mindset that's always worth following.
Increasing your value and "glowing up" helps manage the severity of these emotions. But still, there is no easy fix.
With that said... when you give her this freedom and trust, she'll come to appreciate it.
The likelihood of your girl going out and cheating is low anyway.
The odds are this will all blow over soon. She'll go clubbing, nothing will happen, and everything will return to normal.
Try to find comfort in that. Maybe go for a run as well.
