There's nothing necessarily wrong with texting her everyday. For most guys, it's not bad to do unless you go way overboard with it.
However, you don't want to do this if you just met her. A strong sign to lay off texting is if you're the only one initiating messages. In this case, try at least to match the effort she puts in.
In this short post we'll cover:
- What's most important to keep in mind.
- The downsides of texting her daily.
- What the ideal amount of messages to send is.
Whether Texting Daily is Too Much...
Here's the thing...
It can be easy to overthink and analyze everything to find the correct answer.
That is never the right thing to do.
If you text like a player, this wouldn't be an issue.
This is because it's not something players think about. They know the odds of any girl being "the one" is low. If things don't work out, they move onto the next girl.
That's the menality worth adapting. Keep the big picture in mind.
While having instructions for things in dating is important (such as texting), know it's only really for the absolute beginners.
There's a point for many guys starting out where they go on some dates and start to learn some things- but then become super analytical with it.
They join the often toxic or misleading PUA forums and completely miss the point of what they should be doing.
After that point.. almost any question can be answered by:
- Keeping it simple
- Get more experience
- Do what's normal.
Dating can be intimidating and overwhelming. You can learn some things online, but don't lose the big picture.
How Often Should You Text Your Girl?
What I want you to take away from this post is that doing things (like texting her everyday) can be fine. However, it may be an indication that you're overly needy and inexperienced.
After I met my current girlfriend, we ended up seeing each other everyday for nearly 7 years.
I already knew everything I needed to know about dating at that point. I could afford to break the rules and do what I want. I knew I wasn't giving off needy vibes or anything.
So it's okay to do stuff like daily texts, but try to take a step back sometimes. Check your motivations and emotions that you're not smothering her.
Ultimately, how often you should text her will depend on how long you've been seeing her. Message her when it makes sense to, not just for the sake of reaching out. It can be once a day or several times through the week.
Just try to have some intent and focus with it.
How Can You Keep Daily Texts Engaging?
Your messages should be casual, flirty, and fun.
Also, don't feel obligated to text her every day or be upset if she doesn't either.
Make sure to be moving towards spending more time in-person with her.
Actually being together is when you make progress. Texting can be rather emotionless at times.
Remember: whether or not she likes you has nothing to do with the exact amount of messages you send.
(unless it's way too high or low)
If you just met someone new, check out this post on how long you should talk to a girl before asking them out.
Try to always keep it lighthearted and fun, and make sure to never waste time texting any girl who clearly doesn't respect your time. Good luck.